Organic Food and Bipolar Disorder

When it comes to Bipolar Disorder and eating organic food, I would have to say “no” for Bipolar I Disorder and “maybe” for Bipolar II Disorder and Cyclothymia, which are more mild forms of Bipolar Disorder.  

Many individuals do not realize that there are different types of Bipolar Disorder.  Organic foods can be very helpful in treating more mild forms of Bipolar Disorder, but when it comes to Bipolar I Disorder, the best form of treatment is medication and talk therapy. Without medication and talk therapy, statistics prove that up to 20% of people with Bipolar I Disorder commit suicide. 

What is Bipolar Disorder and the different types of Bipolar?  Bipolar Disorder is also known as Manic Depression.  It is a physical brain disorder that comes out in emotional ways.  Bipolar Disorder involves severe “highs” (mania) and severe “lows” (depression) with some “normal” moods between the two.  Anything that causes an emotional response can lead to a Bipolar Disorder mood swing. 

Bipolar Disorder is not a character flaw or a reflection on one’s integrity.  It is a disease just like heart disease or diabetes.

Bipolar Disorder affects individuals differently. There are different types of Bipolar Disorder such as Bipolar I, Bipolar II, and Cyclothymia.

Bipolar I Disorder is the most severe form of Bipolar Disorder with overly “highs”, known as mania, and severe “lows”, known as depression. Bipolar I Disorder also includes episodes of psychosis (the inability to distinguish reality from fantasy or belief).  Medications are needed for relief of psychosis. 

I was diagnosed with Bipolar I Disorder when I was 29 years old and medications have literally saved my life. Exercise and good nutrition are apart of my life, but alone, it is not a treatment for my Bipolar I Disorder.  It was apart of my life before I was diagnosed and my life was in total chaos then.

Bipolar II Disorder is usually misdiagnosed due to its subtleties.  This is a more mild form of Bipolar Disorder. Bipolar II Disorder involves episodes of “hypomania”, instead of full-blown mania, and has even longer periods of severe depression.  Also, psychosis is usually not present with Bipolar II Disorder.

I do have friends that use diet and exercise to maintain their stability with Bipolar II Disorder, but most individuals need medication to deal with the severity of the depression that can be life threatening.

Cyclothymia is the mildest form of Bipolar Disorder.  Many people with this disorder never seek treatment.  These individuals are able to function well in life and experience mild to moderate episodes of depression alternating with mild episodes of hypomania.

Individuals with Cyclothymia can become very ill, however, to the point of impairment in response to certain substances or medications such as marijuana, alcohol, anti-depressants, steroids, and in some cases, high doses of decongestants.  These substances and medications may trigger episodes of depression or even a full-blown mania.

Bipolar Disorder can be a life-threatening illness no matter what type it manifests itself. Like any other life threatening disease, Bipolar Disorder has the potential to take lives. 

If someone is suicidal or severely depressed, please seek help right away from a professional and please encourage that loved one to go on medication.  Medication saves lives no matter what you believe about it.

Anxiety & Mania

"Dad! Mom is acting weird again and she's bothering me!" is a common phrase our oldest son, who is 13, usually hollers to my husband. He quickly tries to intervene before I become full blown manic in front of the kids.

I know what it's like to be severely depressed.  I know what it's like to be extremely manic, full of anxiety and paranoia.

Full blown mania starts from some simple, euphoric, happy mood feelings that are called, "hypomania". That is the beginning stage of mania for me.  Hypomania makes me feel full of energy and like I can do ANYTHING. My thoughts and movement are quick as I attack our house and move furniture around and clean like never before. I'm creative, inspired, quick witted, I write and compose music at lightening speed, I love everyone around me, I'm the life of the party and life is more than great! My kids love my wacky, entertaining, spontaneous ways until I get too crazy. 

Going from zero to 60 in nothing flat over absolutely nothing is normal for someone living with Bipolar Disorder. Rage comes on like a caged tiger ready to attack once released. I don't have time to process it or figure out why it came on.  I despise this part of my chemical imbalance. 

A series of adrenal, mania highs from shopping sprees to spontaneous trips to other countries fill a void of craziness. 

Anxiety is tremendously high which triggers an explosion of paranoia and irritability as well as staggered breathing, sweating palms, tremors, chest pains and stomach pains. 

Grandiose thoughts sneak in during full blown mania. I think that I can do ANYTHING!  It's embarrassing to remember those moments or be reminded by a close family member.  Thoughts of KNOWING I have the next great invention or #1 song to hit the charts consume my thinking.

Mania gets worse and it takes a destructive turn into full blown mania. My mind is racing so fast that I get scared because I can't focus on the littles things like driving, cooking dinner, or even just get ready for the day.  I can hardly breathe because it's like I'm running a marathon with my slurred and rapid speech. 

Risky behavior takes over sometimes from driving 110 miles per hour to other bad decisions.

I was teaching a NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) class on mental illness and sharing my story for the Salem Police Officer's "Crisis Intervention Training" a few months ago and one of the police officers asked me, "How, as police officers, can we tell if someone is intoxicated or just manic?"  What a great question!  All in all, I told them that it was a hard call but sometimes you may have to have that individual simply take a drug test or alcohol test to find out.  The symptoms are so similiar.  Unlike drugs or alcohol, Bipolar Disorder is something that is uncontrollable and not a character flaw, but an actual physical illness that is a chemical imbalance.  An illness like heart disease or diabetes.

Mania sounds fun at first during the hypomania phase, but then it turns into a torterous stage with Bipolar I Disorder.  Thoughts of suicide creep in....not because you want to die, but because you can't handle the pain anymore.  Self-destruction seems inevitable and you want it to end, so rational thinking goes out the window and you are overcome with paranoia which can lead to psychosis (seeing or hearing things that are not real).

My paranoia can be about what people are saying.  I see everything, every move a person makes through body ltheir body anguage...all within seconds of when they start talking to me.  The littlest thing from the tone of voice one uses, to the way they tilt their head when they talk to me.  You could give me a compliment and all I would hear is a negative remark.  Paranoia equals distorted thinking.

It's hard to articulate any of this when you are in the midst of it all and that's why it's so important to take my medication and check in with my psychiatrist who has been terrific and perfect for me for the past 12 years.

My medication has changed quite a bit because I am super sensitive to many of them, but for the past 10 years, Lithium, Depakote ER and Zoloft have kept me stable. When psychosis hits in times of trauma triggers, I then take Haldol which works the best for me.  And for my anxiety, Alprazolam (Xanax) is what works the best fo me.

My depression and mania used to be a huge part of my life, but I have been pretty stable for the last 14 years.  There is no cure for Bipolar Disorder, so it DOES hit me once in a while and medication can't contain it, but I always know that it's my illness and that "this too shall pass".

I am more afraid of NOT taking my meds than of taking medication.  I like who I am when I am on them....I am "me" and whatever it takes to be "me", that's what I'm going to do.

Coping Skills & Humor: "My Little Garden Monkey"



Coping skills are just as important as medications & doctors when it comes to dealing with anxiety, depression, panic attacks, bipolar disorders or any kind of challenge.

The one thing my life has not been is boring.  Through some of my darkest times, my mom taught me one of the most important coping skills of all and that is to remember to fill my mind with good thoughts & memories and always try to find something to laugh at even if it's myself!

So, this is one of my favorite, funny memories growing up that I wanted to share about my pet monkey, Jaimie.

"My Little Garden Monkey"

When I was in 2^nd grade, I vividly remember going outside in our backyard to help my dad in our vegetable garden. My family lived on a small farm out in the country, in the beautiful state of Washington.  I loved helping my parents in the vegetable garden and playing hide and go seek with them in the many rows of corn that towered over me. 

One particular day, it was just me and dad in the garden picking green beans when all of a sudden we heard a faint screaming noise and then several swooshing noises coming from our apple trees on the other side of the garden.  My dad and I looked up into the apple trees, shading our eyes from the sun, and dad said, “Honey, there’s a monkey swinging in our apple trees!  I’m going to try to catch it!  Go inside and get your mom while I get a ladder.”  I ran as fast as I could into our yellow farmhouse and got mom, barely being able to speak from all my huffing and puffing from my fast sprint into the house.  As mom was drying her hands on the kitchen towel, I dragged her outside, by the arm, to show her what dad and I had found! We couldn’t believe our eyes!  Dad had actually caught the little spider monkey and was bringing him down the ladder with him!  Hastily getting an old rabbit cage, my parents put the monkey in it and I immediately called my monkey, “Jamie”.  Yep, I claimed ownership to the monkey.  Mom told me not to get attached to the monkey because he most likely belonged to someone else. Barely hearing her words, I gave Jamie a banana, he peeled it and handed the peeling back to me and proceeded to eat the banana. Hmmm…I was already having great plans for this pet monkey of mine.   I was in awe of my garden monkey, Jamie, and couldn’t wait to dress him up, like any other 2^nd grade girl would do of course! 

After the initial shock of catching a monkey in our back yard, dad immediately called the fire department and told them about the situation.  Ironically enough, the fire department accused my father, who was a pastor of a little community church in town, of being intoxicated and hung up on him!  Having a good sense of humor, mom and dad laughed it off.  Brushing that abrupt phone call off, my parents decided to post an ad in the local newspaper regarding a lost little spider monkey.  No one responded within the first few days or weeks and eventually months.  I grew very attached to Jamie and loved him very much.  Almost one year went by until one day someone called about Jamie.  It was the dreaded phone call.  The owners of this precious monkey called to claim him and pick him up.  I cried and sobbed as they took my little garden monkey, Jamie, away.  I will never forget my little garden monkey, Jamie, and that special day in the garden along with many other memories.

I no longer cry tears for Jamie but now smile with giggles as I tell this story to my friends and our kids.  Distracting my thoughts from negative ones or just starting my day out with a positive thought or memory can set the tone for the rest of my day and help me cope with any kind of struggles or challenges that may come up.  So, here's to all the little garden monkeys out there who can brighten up our day!

Anxiety & Triggers

If you suffer from Anxiety, Depression, Bipolar Disorder or any other kind of mental illness, don't feel guilty.  It's genetic and that's it.  Pure and simple.  It's hereditary. 

There are things that can trigger the onset of anxiety, depression, and mental illness in general.  Things such as your environment, thought patterns and life style to name a few.  If you suffer from one of these hurdles in life, most likely someone else in your family has also struggled, too.  It's hereditary and that gene could have been passed down to you from a parent, grand-parent or even great-grandparent. 

Since everyone is unique and deals with life differently, your journey will be different and yours alone.  It's not a death sentence, but more about self-discovery and how we are fearfully and wonderfully made. 

On my own road to recovery, I've learned some valuable Coping Skills along the way.  In sharing them, I hope that they can benefit you as well.

Healthy boundaries is one of my Coping Skills.  After years of practice, I have finally been able to make healthy boundaries for myself without feeling guilty.  Boundaries from talking, seeing, texting, facebooking (is that a word?) or visiting certain people that need something from me or are just plain too toxic for me at the time.  Some of them mean no harm, others may unintentionally do harm without realizing it. It can be a friend, stranger, organization, job or family. If I'm not in a healthy place, I've realized I will be of no good to them either.  A single text can spiral me into a severe panic attack or anxiety attack.

I have also realized that tracking my daily activities on a chart every day helps me pinpoint my triggers.  Triggers that can cause anxiety and worry, depression or mania from my Bipolar Disorder or even trigger my Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

My triggers can be anything from over stimulation from being around too many people for long periods of time or the opposite - not enough time around other people.  Most of all, it's the little things that can trigger me.  So, I keep track of who I've texted and received texts from, who I talk to on the phone or see in person, what I ate, how much i slept and if it was broken up sleep, what TV shows I watched or movies I watched, etc.  It sounds trivial, but it really does help.  When I'm suffering from severe anxiety, sounds and light bother me the most.  The hum of a light fixture, the light from the computer.  Little things can cause a lot of anxiety sometimes.

Another one of my triggers was responding, by texting, to a couple of individuals too much.  In my mind, I thought if I texted them back, it wasn't as toxic as seeing them or talking to them on the phone.  For me, it was just as toxic.  Now, I don't respond unless I am in a healthy place mentally, emotionally and it doesn't take away from my family or another important event at the time.  I felt soooooo guilty at first, but realized it was a must.  That alone took out A LOT of my anxiety.

Another anxiety for me is shopping with other women.  Since I'm still in recovery from being a "People Pleaser", I found it extremely difficult to be myself completely without worrying about if my friends (s) was enjoying their self at the mall. Ugh.  I know, it's crazy but it brought on real anxiety for me!

I could go on and on about how commercials or certain movies trigger me, but I think those are more obvious and I wanted to emphasize the importance of how little triggers can cause great damage.  I found out that when I was aware of the little triggers, the larger ones were not as often.

I'll share more on worry, anxiety and panic attacks later this week. 

I Hope that some of these coping skills help some of you with practical things that you can do for yourself to maybe alleviate some of the stress in your life. 

I'll be sharing more coping skills later this week.  Thanks for coming on this journey with me!

Fighting off Coyotes

When I was in grade school, I grew up on a farm and we had all kinds of animals.  We had everything from chickens, cows, pigs, and sheep to even a pet monkey!   There was one problem on our farm, though…coyotes.  They were the enemy to the rest of our farm animals. 

One night, some coyotes came out of the woods and down into our farm and attacked one of our mommy sheep that had baby twin lambs.  The next morning, my parents told me what had happened the night before and that we had to be the mommy for the little twin lambs. We would need to feed them and take care of them. So, my dad built a little fenced off pen in the corner of our kitchen for our new additions.  We named the lambs “Baa Baa” and “Mi Mi” because of the sounds each one had made.  Every morning while I waited for the school bus, I fed the baby lambs with a bottle while I waited for the school bus.  I can still remember how their furry wool felt as I cuddled them both.

“Baa Baa” and “Mi Mi” thrived in the safety of our little farm kitchen.  During this time, my brother was quite young and was learning how to talk while we raised these little lambs.  While my brother was learning to talk and walk, he had picked up “Baa Baa” and “Mi Mi’s” sheep sounds! My brother ended up calling our mom “Baa” instead of “mom” because that’s all he heard! As funny as it was, it took quite a while for him to break that habit and stop calling mom “Baa Baa”!  He was certainly a product of his environment.

I have often felt like a product of my environment and I have often felt attacked by different circumstances throughout my life.  The coyotes in my life have been Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Anxiety, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  These mental illnesses have come close to devouring me whole and literally taking my life. At times, I created an unhealthy environment for myself by surrounding myself with toxic people and unhealthy survival skills.  I finally cried out to God, in my darkest moment, when I couldn’t take it anymore and I was in complete desperation.  Right away, God intervened when I finally asked Him to help me. 

 Like our baby lambs that we raised in our kitchen I too feel complete shelter in the safe and healthy environment of my home, family and friends. I have had to create healthy boundaries and coping skills that help slay the coyotes in my life that trigger my mental illness. By being transparent and honest with the positive people in my life, I allow them to understand better how I need help slaying those coyotes in my life!

Whatever circumstance you are faced with today, let God fight your battles for you and allow others to help you on your recovery process.  Recovery only comes in to your life when you allow it to come in.  We all need help slaying those coyotes in our life!

Still Struggling

It seems like lately I have been struggling with depression, again.  It's funny when i share that with some people because they think that I'm "cured" or have fully recovered from my Bipolar I Disorder.  Unfortunately, there is no cure, but there is hope.  I know this feeling will pass.  I still struggle and go through cycles of mania and depression. 

Because I'm a "People Pleaser", my anxiety gets really heightened from trying to please everyone from responding with the "right" response on facebook to making just the right dinner so everyone is happy in the family.  Then I obsess over it. Ugh.  Today I've done that.  Someone made a statement to me that I'm sure was not meant to be offensive and because of my oversensitivity due to my Bipolar Disorder, I obsessed over it...felt bad, over analyzed it..got angry...felt stupid for getting angry over something so trivial...got depressed for the feelings I was feeling and then guilty for taking it out on loved ones...  over one little comment someone made!  And it wasn't even directed at me!  This was when I had to make a decision and CHOOSE healthy Coping Skills instead of reverting to my old unhealthy Survival Skills.  I quickly changed my thoughts by concentrating on positive ones, distracted myself with a funny sitcom ("The Middle" which I LOVE) and then I made it through to the other side.  Whew.

Bipolar depression is often masked with anxiety.  Medication has worked tremendously in my life, but that is only part of it.  There is no magic pill to cure Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Mania or Anxiety.  Medication helps me clear my mind so I can think clearly and then work on my issues and change my thought patterns with healthy thoughts like "Cognitive Behavior" and Talk Therapy.  It takes work for not only myself, but my loved ones who are with me...they need to know the signs and symptoms and to be able to know when it is my illness or when I'm just being moody and rightfully acting out. ha.

Most of all, knowing that I'm not alone and knowing there are others out there like me gives me some hope.  Feeling alone can feel very scary and lonely.  It's so important to reach out and be honest to a few friends and family members you can trust to let them help you through your recovery days.  Believe me, there will be times that they will need you, too!

My thought for the evening...you will be okay....I will be okay....you are never alone!

Bipolar Disorder Types: Symptoms and Treatment

Bipolar Disorder Types:  Symptoms and Treatment

There’s a startling statistic that proves 50-70% of individuals who live with Bipolar Disorder and do not seek treatment, self medicate through the use of drugs (especially cocaine), alcohol, and sleeping medications.

What exactly is Bipolar Disorder, the symptoms and treatments and the different types? 

Bipolar Disorder (also known as Manic Depression) is a physical brain disorder that comes out in emotional ways. Anything that causes an emotional response can lead to a Bipolar Disorder mood swing.  It is a chemical imbalance in the brain. 

Bipolar Disorder is different from the normal ups and downs that everyone goes through in life. Symptoms of Bipolar Disorder are severe.  As a result of the severity, damaged relationships, poor job or school performance, and even suicide can be an outcome of the illness.  

Bipolar Disorder is not a character flaw, spiritual weakness or an excuse. It is a real disease just like heart disease or diabetes.  It is also a very treatable disease.  However, if an individual does not seek treatment, it can be life threatening.

There are three types of Bipolar Disorder:  Bipolar I Disorder, Bipolar II Disorder, and Cyclothymia.

1) Bipolar I Disorder is the most severe type of Bipolar Disorder. It consist of severe “highs” (known as mania) and severe “lows” (major depression) with “normal” moods in between.

Symptoms of “Mania” in Bipolar I Disorder include rapid speech, risky behavior, paranoia, recklessness, irritability, rage, shopping sprees, increased sexual drive, grandiose thoughts, over-confidence, paranoia, very little sleep if any, impulsiveness, flight of thoughts (going from one topic to another cued by words that trigger some other thought), and psychosis.

Psychosis is the inability to distinguish reality from fantasy.   Common psychotic symptoms are hallucinations (hearing, seeing, or sensing the presence of things that are not actually there) and delusions (false, strongly held beliefs not influenced by logical or rational reasoning.)  Sometimes severe episodes of mania or depression include symptoms of Psychosis. 

Symptoms of “Depression” in Bipolar Disorder are uncontrollable sadness, irrational thoughts, isolation, severe fatigue, anxiety, loss of interest in activities, guilt, hopelessness, pessimism, worthlessness, decreased energy, severe fatigue, difficulty in concentrating, difficulty making decisions, sleeping too much or too little, rage, worry, confusion, restlessness, anger, psychotic episodes, suicidal thoughts and suicidal attempts.

The best form of treatment for Bipolar I Disorder is medication and talk therapy. Without medication and talk therapy, statistics prove that up to 20% of people with Bipolar I Disorder commit suicide.

Medications that are commonly used in treating Bipolar I Disorder are mood stabilizers, anti-depressants, psychotic medications, anti-seizure and anti-anxiety medications.

Talk Therapy is just as important as medication when it comes to treatment for Bipolar I Disorder.  This can be anything from Counseling, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Guided Imagery, Support Groups and to many more.

2)  Bipolar II Disorder is a more mild form of Bipolar Disorder.

Symptoms include episodes of “hypomania” (feelings of euphoria instead of full-blown mania) that alternate with even longer periods of severe depression.  Psychosis is usually not a symptom of Bipolar II Disorder.

“Hypomania” can be a very good feeling.  With “hypomania”, though, comes a very long period of severe depression afterward.

Depression in Bipolar II Disorder is focused on more in treatment because it is so severe and over shadows the hypomania.  Anti-depressants are commonly used the most for Bipolar II Disorder, but sometimes mood stabilizers also help as well.

Talk therapy is another form of positive treatment for Bipolar II Disorder.

3)  Cyclothymia is the mildest form of Bipolar Disorder.

Individuals diagnosed with this may function well in life and experience mild depression with mild hypomania. However, those who live with Cyclothymia can become severely ill in response to certain substances or medications such as marijuana, alcohol, antidepressants, steroids, and high doses of decongestants.  These substances and medications may increase their depression or trigger full-blown mania.

If treatment is needed, it’s usually an anti-depressant for the mild to moderate depression episodes that may come with Cyclothymia.

Sub-Types of Bipolar Disorder:

Rapid-Cycling is a sub-type of Bipolar Disorder.  People who are diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder are sometimes defined as having a “Rapid-Cycling” form of Bipolar I Disorder or Bipolar II Disorder if they have four or more episodes of mania or depression in one year, in any combination. 

Rapid-Cycling in Bipolar Disorder is a temporary phase and women are more prone to it than men.

Ultra-Rapid-Cycling is when there are more frequent episodes (than “Rapid Cycling” Bipolar) of depression or mania, with shorter times of normal mood in between. Individuals can experience mood changes in the same day, or even within an hour.

Mixed Mania is the most debilitating sub-type of Bipolar Disorder. Symptoms of both mania and depression occur at the same time or alternate frequently during the same day.  The person experiencing Mixed Mania Bipolar Disorder becomes excitable and agitated, as in mania, but also irritable, depressed and full of anxiety, instead of the euphoric feeling that is usually associated with mania.

Mixed Mania can be found in either Bipolar I Disorder or Bipolar II Disorder and occurs in about 40-50 percent of Bipolar Cases. 

Symptoms of Mixed Mania are restlessness, hyperactivity, irritability and sometimes paranoia or mania, combined with symptoms of depression and distress.  A positive mood or euphoric high that is usually experienced with classic mania or hypomania is missing in Mixed Mania Bipolar Disorder. 
People who live with this sub-type Bipolar Disorder are often more impulsive and suicidal than those who experience other forms of Bipolar Disorder.  They usually are not capable of being cooperative in a relationship, may have a very low tolerance for stress, and frequently express anger or rage.  These symptoms can occur in individuals with Bipolar I or Bipolar II Disorder.

Medication treatments are helpful in treating Rapid Cycling, Ultra-Rapid Cycling and Mixed Mania Bipolar Disorder.  Mood stabilizers, anti-anxiety and medication for psychosis are the most effective.

*As daunting as Bipolar Disorder seems, it can be treated and people with this illness can lead full and productive lives.  How do I know this?  Because I was diagnosed with Bipolar I Disorder Rapid-Cycling when I was 29 years old. Today, I live a stable, fulfilling life through medication and talk therapy treatment. 

There is hope and treatment for those who live with Bipolar Disorder and for those who are caregivers.  It’s important to take one day at a time…one moment at a time and to remember that recovery is not a destination, but a life long journey.

January 3, 2012

A Funny Story about Grace & Marriage

(Originally written December 2010)

I was attracted to everything about my husband when I first met him. The way he talked, his perfect white teeth, the laugh lines around his eyes when he smiled, his spiritual walk with God, and the fact that he also played the piano and sang was the icing on the cake because that was my passion, too! 

My husband to be and I agreed on everything. We had the same values, goals and dreams in life. Life was good and even greater now that we had found each other. I knew I was the perfect girlfriend for him, if I don’t say so myself. We started dating right away. I started cooking and baking for this new boyfriend of mine, we would sing and play the piano together, we had the same love and obsession for coffee, we both loved watching Seinfeld re-runs and Portland Trailblazer games together. We were perfect for each other. So, after 3 months of dating, we got engaged and within 6 months had a Christmas Wedding!

Well, they say that the first year of marriage is the hardest, but my husband had no idea what was in store for him.  Our perfectness went to pettiness when I learned that Jonathan strongly disliked cats. I loved cats and they had always been therapy for me. Little did I realize that Jonathan had many allergies and it turned out that cats were on the top of that list. So, our first major fight was over a cat that I wanted to keep. Yep, a cat. I thought my husband could somehow be cured of his allergies and let me have my pet cat. Everything would be just fine I thought. I ended up giving up my cat.

I grew up with brothers and was somewhat of a tomboy and I absolutely loved playing and watching sports. My husband was quickly realizing that I was not domestic at all and had no desire to be. My pretend love for domestic things came to a crashing halt. My new husband soon found out that I’d rather watch a football game than make dinner. I didn’t sew, I didn’t like to bake, I loved blues and classical musical while he loved country music, and I loved to shop and be creative and be very social while he rather stay home and do a crossword puzzle. One day, after I had caught a loaf of bread on fire in the oven, my very calm husband said, “Honey, who are you exactly? Who did I marry?”. The truth was, was that I came into our marriage needing stability, unconditional love, security and I was so afraid that Jonathan wouldn’t love me if he saw the real me. As we saw our differences together, though, we continued to love each other more and embrace them. 

Jonathan and I actually realized that we were total opposites, but balanced each other out in a very good way. It’s funny to think back about those little things because they were a drop in the bucket when compared to a more serious problem that I brought into our marriage. A life altering illness.

That first year of marriage I was diagnosed with Bipolar I Disorder. Another piece to the puzzle, really. Our marriage only got deeper and stronger through it all, though, with the help of God. God’s grace was poured on me every single day as I sought treatment through some wonderful doctors, therapy, and medications for Bipolar I Disorder. I was loved unconditionally by my husband and he showed me what grace was in the flesh. I never doubted God’s love and grace or that unwavering grace and love that my husband still shows me today.

After 15 beautiful, and not so beautiful, years of marriage due to my illness, my husband is my very best friend and the best husband ever. He is a true example of grace in action.

Whatever relationship you are in, remember grace. It’s so rare to show grace to others in today’s society, especially to our spouse. We can be nice to everyone else around us except our spouse. Grace is one of the most precious gifts you can give your loved one.

When was the last time you showed grace to your husband or wife? When have you practiced grace to a waitress who got your order wrong or the store clerk who was exasperatingly slow or to your child who was getting on your last nerve? Or that driver who has had his blinker on for the last 10 miles?

Everyone needs grace in their life. God was the perfect example of grace when he willing took on our burdens and died for us. As God continually lavishes love on us through the storms and through the joys of life, remember that all you have to do is receive that grace. He is always there with open arms waiting to love you unconditionally, even when you haven’t been loving Him back. When you don’t feel like practicing grace, do what I do…just say to God, “Help!” and He will give you that perfect grace to show others!

Overcoming Struggles & Pursuing My Passions

It is 12:48 in the morning and it is officially 2012. There's something about the quiet of the night that makes me want to create, write, compose music and do some soul searching...even if it isn't the begining of the new year.
Knowing that the holidays are all over brings reflection, depression, joy and restlessness all at once.
I am continuing to track my sleep hours, who I talk to and see during the day, who I text, what movies / tv shows I watch and what foods I eat to help track my moods. I call it my daily "Linnea's Lines of Moods" or as most people know it, a "Mood Chart". ha. It helps me with tracking when I am stressed, down, severely depressed, manic or just plain out of my mind. It also helps me recognize what triggers my stress.
Everyone has hurts, habits and hang-ups and taking it one day at a time is too much for some of us. We still feel overwhelmed. For me, it can be one minute at a time.
My hang-ups consist of worry, guilt, caring what others think of me, co-dependency, etc. I refuse to give up my hard core coffee habit!
As the new year comes in, I refuse to do resolutions because every day is a resolution for me. To get up, get dressed, get out of bed (not in that order necessarily!) is my own personal "success" in my world some days. I may add a thing or two along the way such as tucking in a little lunch note into my kids' lunches for the day or taking a 2 mile walk.
As Captain Haddock says in the movie, "Tin Tin", "Where there's a wall, you always push through." Here's to all the walls we may push through, leap over, dig under or climb over to pursue our dreams and passions in the year 2012!